The Hurbicide Guru

The concept of a myopia or myopia refers to the situation when you can’t see far in to the distance. Of all the people you know with spectacles, it is likely that the majority of have this issue Essentially, the difficulty with this condition is that the eyeball is just too lengthy to permit the light from a distant object to become focussed into view, quickly enough by the eye’s cornea and lens system. Therefore there is a blurry feel to the image specifically relayed onto the back of the retina. The eyeball is too long compared with the focusing power of the cornea and lens. This means light rays from objects in the distance are focused in front of the retina because they’ve been bent too much by the cornea and lens.

So, those with near-sightedness see things that are nearby without any difficulty. But if they are trying to look at something in the distance, they end up squinting to see the image more clearly.

You commonly find that younger people suffer from this condition more than older people, at least that’s when the problem starts. Hence, you find kids getting teased about wearing spectacles at school.Actually the problem can even get better as an adult, as the muscles controlling the lens get weaker or stiffer Excessive study at school; faulty positions when reading and writing, bad light for work will all cause short-sight in after life. Spectacles or contact lenses will push back the image’s focal point and place them correclty on the retina to bring in a clearly viewed image.

While overseeing your budget can be bothersome, not managing your budget can can place you in to further in debt if you are not careful. Overseeing your budget the right way has many benefits including saving you money and help relief some of your stress over debt. Always keep in mind that a budget is mainly a plan for your monthly expenditure. A budget, like any plan, requires some level of management to achieve a successful outcome. The way I handle mybudget, for instance, is by focusing on maintaining information organised and controlling my expenditure.

My main focus is on organising the info in mybudget. For example, I keep track of running expenses like utilities, auto and loan repayments, insurance, and the like. I can very easily lose track of my spending without monitoring my budget. By knowing what expenditures repeat every month, I have an immediate grasp on the minimum amount of money I have to put away each month before I spend on other things I can moderate a little more such as entertainment, clothing, and holidays.

To make a financial progress, I make sure that I supervise my spending closely in my budget. A strong measure of advancement is placing money into a savings account or paying down debt. However, if I over spend, the opposite is true because instead of saving money I will use debt to help me cover the monthly expenditure in my budget. Clearly, giving in to the stresses of budgeting can have costly outcomes for my finances, specially if I am not able to pay down my debt.

There are two benefits for moderating and organizing my budget: First, I save money by avoiding redundant expenditure. Second, my finances are directed at attaining financial goals. Fundamentally, by spending sagely and buying only things that are important, I am actually freeing up money that I can either use for something else or save. The spare money can also be useful in paying off debt or keeping it for a holiday. In addition to having extra money, I am able to establish longer term financial goals like saving and investing for retirement or paying off my mortgage or student loans. With my budget being organised and controlled, not only does my financial position become more healthy but successfully overseeing my budget reduces the stress that often comes with being in debt.

Resonance is a major component of Being. If I have a whole lot of problems, and I’m really feeling really bound up by all the problems and all the circumstances that I have to deal with, then I’m not resonating. I can’t resonate if I feel bound up by my mortgage, my wife, my kids, the school system, the government, gas prices,… all of these things. If I feel that way, I could also say, “I’m not feeling the Flow of Being. In fact all I’m feeling is structure, structure, structure! Bound, bound, bound!”

So what I’m saying is, at that pointand we spoke about this in The Everyday Sanyasinuse a little practice to take just a little bit deeper breath. Try to find a sense of expanding flow within you. As you find that, and as you open up to it, you will begin to flow moreever so softly and gently. You will begin to resonate more. Where your shoulders were forward, and your sternum and head were downwhere you couldn’t see anything because you were looking at your toesall of a sudden your head will begin to raise up. Your sternum will come up, and you will breathe in. You will feel a sense of Flow of Being.

But what’s really happening is that you’re opening yourself up to the awareness of your Flow of Being. There is no circumstance outside of you that is more powerful than your Flow of Being. That’s what’s really far out. There is no circumstance outside of youthere is no circumstance in your outside worldthat is stronger or more powerful than the flow of your being. That’s because, with the Flow of your Being, possibility enters into your mind and into your action.
Once possibility enters into your life, you begin to play with circumstance instead of being bound by circumstance.

As you become a Co-Creator with the other aspects of your self that are singing various Songs of your Soul, and as you integrate those aspects of your self into who you are today, you’re becoming even more of a Co-Creator. And the real fun thing about this is that, because you’re seeing the aspects of yourself much more compassionately, you actually begin seeing people around you in the world much more compassionately.

Yogi Sean is the student of Swami Ramananda and the author of Dancing in the Fire of Transformation and The Everyday Sanyasin.

You guys know I don’t like to admit it, because dating games don’t “get” me. I finally bottomed out, this morning I devoured what seemed like a pound of bacon. On a weekend while being single, for once. You better believe it was great. Am I crazy? Actually, that’s when I first thought about joining a dating service in my area.

Easy solution. I’ll meet new singles thru this Dallas dating service. Probably sounds like a plan. The reason I mention my dating woes: We were at Julie’s soccer finals in Denver two weeks ago, Jim wouldn’t get off my back about if I have settled down with that special someone. I just can’t believe that came up. My response was, “I’m eating here, and no.”

Can you believe that even “The Twerp” (my nephew, age 9) kept pressing me about my companionship situation. I quipped to each of them: “Hey look, I’ll never find a gorgeous single woman hanging out with you.”

Do you have any idea what happened next? They all laughed at me. Shortly after, I fell asleep that night just to get some perspective. Why can’t I stop thinking about this! It was more useful listening to my dad, which is never the case. Nina, who was just deployed on military commission suggested that I enroll in Great Expectations. I said, “That’s what I was going to do.” I have some good friends. I can speak highly of this Dallas dating service.

Early on, singles events and mixers were kinda foreign from my perspective. I was a bit nervous at first, and I was speechless at first. My emotional anxiety did not pull the plug on the evening. The evening was a great way to start at Great Expectations. The host was incredible and I’ll always remember the many enjoyable people I met, all available singles.

It wasn’t long before I was regularly mingling at these glorious Denver Singles Events and parties at Great Expectations, I met some great people that obviously feel the same way I do when it comes to dating. Don’t know why I ever let everyone give me a hard time about living the bachelor’s life after all these years. Surprisingly enough, dating right in Dallas with Great Expectations is a good time and like a dream come true.

Criss

Dating, and Loving it

The only way to get ahead in life is to know where you want to go and keep yourself moving in that direction. Blame, shame and regret are a waste of time. “Never look back unless you plan on going that way.”

In order to move forward, you have to be aware of where you are. Are you stuck in neutral or, even worse, backsliding in reverse into the past? If you are, put on your brakes, change gears and get back on track.

How can you tell if you’re off track or going backwards? It’s pretty easy. Just pay attention to your feeling feedback. Your emotions are your strongest indication of whether or not you’re focused in the right direction. If you’re feeling angry, upset, guilty, or whatever, about something that happened last year, last month, last week or ten minutes ago, then you’re stuck in the past. And there’s no way that you can get to where you want to go from the past. To move forward, you have to start from the here and now. You must be present to change gears.

So get in touch with your feelings, but don’t stay stuck where you are. Let go of negative emotions. This includes any complaining, blaming and justifying. Let it all go. Realize that it’s over. It’s gone. It’s past. And the only reason it’s still hanging around is because you’re still thinking about it.

Now, it’s time to quit idling around and move on. But, before you can move forward, you must get out of reverse (the past), focus on your goal and change gears. Look at what you can do to either transform the situation or, better yet, just let it go and transcend it. That’s often your best bet.

The Chinese symbol for “crisis” is the same as for “opportunity.” Isn’t that interesting? So, in every breakdown, look for the breakthrough. When you’re in the middle of a “crisis,” you can change gears by asking yourself, “What’s the opportunity here?” That’s thinking in forward gear!

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It is now 5 years since I passed out of college and started working. I
love working. I am not a workaholic but I love working. There is a lot
of pressure in the work we all do. This era is all about speed.
Everything around us moves at the speed of thought. And the wise
guys from the big B-Schools would tell you to be there at the right
time or else you’ll loose the next big opportunity. All of us try to
search for the next big opportunity so that we are not left of out in
this race. We travel from place to place in search for that hidden
treasure, success, happiness or whatever one may like to call it.

I have closely interacted with hundreds of people in these years and
one of my favorites activity is studying people and human
behavior. In the beginning I used to get surprised (sometimes even
laugh) when I hear a new kid out of college and starting his life
say that he feels burnt out. But then if you look at it closely, the
kid is right. He is burnt out before he even starts because he is
always expected to perform beyond what his mind and body can take.
There is always this sense of urgency within all of us that usually
keeps us unhappy no matter what we achieve.

I too was in this rat race till my mother taught me the most important
lesson of my life and that is about being in the present and enjoying
every moment of it. Sadly though I had lost my mother by then. I still
remember that day on 18th December 2002 when I was thinking about my
mother in the back of my mind but yet I stayed in the office as
we had this requirement to get the ISDN up in our office. I was scared
that if the leased lines goes down we’ll not have an alternative. So I
sat with the providers and did not listen to my heart. As a result by
the time I went to see my mom it was too late. I wish I had followed my
heart instead. That is when I realized that the ISDN
connection had no real significance in my life and yet I gave it an
unwanted priority.

Here are some rules I live by now which I hope would help all of you.
They say that it is best to learn from others mistakes. 6 basic rules
that we must all follow to be happy -

Live in the present -
Most good books on better living talk about being in the present. You cannot
afford to think and live in the past. Neither can you think about the
future all the time. You do not know what would happen in the future.
You do not have control over it. This does not mean that we should not
plan. It just means that we do not need to over stress ourselves
thinking about what would happen in the future.
Let me explain with a simple example. You want to go for a
vacation. You need to plan and buy the tickets in time. But it does not
mean that when you are in the train or aircraft you start running
inside it. You’ll not reach any faster than all the other passengers
who are traveling with you.
However, do remember that you must learn from your past and improve
upon
it. The food from Pizza Hut is fattening. This means that it would
remain the same, unless they do some major changes to the way pizzas
are made. So saying that I cannot think about the past and I should
keep going over and over again to Pizza Hut does no make sense.
Also another important point is that you must learn to visualize about
the future. When I was kid our swimming coach used to talk a lot about
the power of visualization. He used to say that if you going for a
competition tomorrow, the previous night one should visualize the
entire event. It goes like this - I
feel light and energetic. The weather is great for swimming. I am going
to get the best place. My start is perfect. I have a perfect dive in
the water. The water is not too hot neither is it too cool. It is just
right for me. My breathing is perfect and my strokes are perfect and
coordinated. I am the winner…
Simulate the same situation when you are facing a client or an ISO
auditor.

Another aspect I’ll like to point out here is that some people get into
the urgency because they feel insecure about the future. They think “If
I die my wife or family would face a
lot of problems… ” In the process they start taking insurance
policies
left and right, try to buy a house etc.. In many cases they are not
able to keep up with all the liabilities and in that tension many do
really die. One must plan and have a secure future but
never over do anything. Take commitments only when it is possible to
live up to the commitment.

In short it all boils down to one thing. Be happy and live in the
moment. Enjoy every moment of it. Because the present will become the
past tomorrow and you need to cherish it then.

Never have any anger -
There
are times we are unhappy because we have anger against somebody. That
really does not help. All it does is make us sad. In no way does it
effect the person who has angered you. As in my case I was angry with
the providers for having given us a good for nothing ISDN modem. What I
lost in return was a lot more. It is not possible for us to not get
angry because the reason why one gets angry is when things do not work
the way we want it to. When people do not behave the way we want them
to. And this would continue to happen. The best we can do is focus on
something else in such situations. That makes us more relaxed. Also, be
grateful for what you have and do not think about what you do not have.
There are many in this world who are less
fortunate than we are.
Never have an ego -Most of us have a big ego which makes us all worse than what we think we are. We
are nobody to judge another person. We are nobody to justify our
actions on others because of what they did to us. In most cases when we
do something against a person it would due to some false ego we have
inside us. “How could he do this to
me. I’ll show him who I am”…. Like I said a little while ago.
I am nobody. If somebody treats you bad it is his fault and there no
need for you to teach him a lesson. He needs to have self realization
about it. Most of our epics is about teaching a lesson to the other
person. I remember as a kid watching Mahabharat and Ramayana on TV,
most of times somebody would be testing somebody else’s ego.

When I do talk about ego, I feel it is necessary to talk about self esteem
too..
Both these are very different. We all must have a level of self esteem
and dignity. But we must not allow somebody else to treat us as a door
mat. If you do not
like what the other person did to you. Cut off the relation or
remove the expectations.

Take pride in who you are
-

There are many who have an inferiority complex about
themselves. They generally think about the family, school, college or
country they are from as being inferior. And hence they prefer to be
bottled up inside themselves and their complexes. This is one prime
reason why people make bad decisions in life.

One must always be happy as who they are. Have pride in what you have.
I was not born to the Tata family. But then Tata was not born to
the British royal family. Everything in this world is relative. You
can either see what you do not have and get complex’d or see what you
have and be happy. Once we start loving our past, our family, our
nation and people around us, we would generally start loving ourselves.

Learn to tolerate
- Many of us
have a hatred because we feel only we are right. We can’t tolerate
others. We can’t tolerate other’s behavior or actions. We generally
fail to respect people for who they are. Rather we would respect them
if they become like what we want them to be. Hitler could not tolerate
the Jews. The Europeans in the US could not tolerate the African
Americans. The upper caste people could not tolerate the lower caste
people in India. We fail to see the person inside.

We must learn to appreciate others and respect the way they are.

Only reality of life is death -
And finally the only reality of life is death. All of us have to die
one
day. Maybe what we can all do is try to visualize what we would like to
achieve by the time we are dead. Let us work backwards. Rather than
setting up a goal for 5 years from now, we must set up a goal for what
we would like to have accomplished by the time we are dead.

I did ask myself these questions about my life sometime back. One of my
targets was to be a good
son. I cannot fully achieve it now as I have lost my mother. For her I
can never be the good son I wanted to be. I can, however, be a good son
for my father. I can be a good brother to my sisters. I can be a good
husband to my wife. I can maybe built a team which can compete with the
best in this world, I can maybe in my own small way make this world a
better place. I do not want to loose these wonderful opportunities. I
do believe that if I live every moment of my
life happily I would be a happy man when I die.

Now we may not be able to achieve all what we desire to achieve. But we
sure can work towards achieving it.

Amarjyoti Krishnan heads bobcares.com, a tech support company for webhosts and ISPs. He is the co-founder of Poornam Info Vision Ltd., a software and IT services company which specializes in Linux based solutions for Webhosts and ISPs. Poornam Info Vision is an ISO 9001:2000 certified company with a team of over 100 engineers.

Amarjyoti is a Computer Engineer based in India and has over 7 years of experience in the hosting industry. He has spoken and written extensively on the subject. His articles have been published both online as well as in print in magazines.

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